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Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Male Discrimination in the Fetish Industry

In the everyday working world it's believed that women are discriminated against when it comes to pay wages. This is partially true but if you look at outside factors that are not factored in it's really not quite as true as the people are made to believe.
1. They don't factor in jobs that are cash based - tips. These business's are dominated by women. There are far more female waitresses and bartenders than there are males. Then there is of course the stripping and escorting which can both be very lucrative.
2. When the economy sank it was mostly men who got laid off. Largely because there were more men employed and because most men earned higher wages. Now there are more women with jobs than there are men.
3. There are more women in college to date than there are men, which means it's likely that women will continue to grow in the business world.

NOW ON TO KINK


Female models, Dominants, submissives, switches, and even women who are not kinky but are willing to be a part of something kinky will be paid for photos and or video work. I know that the pussy holds the power and that men are the ones that generally pay. The largest  problem I have is with the femdom kinky photography and video industry. Because men will pay a Pro Domme to be a submissive somewhere along the line someone decided we don't have to pay men to be in our videos. There thinking is "Because we are dominant they should be so lucky to serve us". If you really think about it, it is complete bullshit! Try saying that to a female who is going to be submissive on video, it just doesn't work like that.

I've been around long enough to know how the industry works and why it tends to work a certain way. I will admit that I have been on sets with men who don't have much video experience and sometimes much kink experience and it never goes the way as planned. Many men look at video as a free session when doing video is much different than a session. It's not as intimate, it's a stop and go pace, it's generally not as intense and there are people with cameras in the room.

Look around the fetish industry and try and tell me how many semi known male fetish models there are. Off the top of my head I can think of 2, Kade and Perish. Both are VERY different from one another and then if you throw me in there I would be more like Kade but I'm still very different from him. I'm also a full time college student and not living in L.A. All three of us are successful in the industry in our own way. We've all heard the term gay for pay and let me tell you lots of guys do this. It's because male discrimination in the fetish industry is so bad that men are willing to go where they get paid. How pathetic is that!?! I don't mean the men are pathetic, the pathetic part is the semi accepted discrimination on men in straight femdom videos. If a man does get paid in femdom work he is almost ALWAYS paid less than the woman.

On a personal note I do get paid unless I agree to do trade for content work. Which is primarily what I have been doing all this summer as I'm going to be opening up my own clips4sale store come September. With that said to get where I've gotten hasn't been easy. I've been pressing my modeling work a lot more in this past year but I've been involved in the community since I was 18. I was lucky enough to meet some great people pretty quickly and I was smart enough to be educated about BDSM. I've been around the block several times but with that said I still run into obstacles with the discrimination against males. Websites saying they want to work with me but can only pay me "this much" when I know that the woman is getting paid more.

One way to solve this is to have a higher standard for male models in kink.
Let me tell you doing what I do isn't easy. I don't care whether your a dominant, switch, submissive, male, female or TG. Kink work isn't as easy as it looks or sounds. I love what I do and I've made some great friends but there is a problem here that is regularly accepted among too many.

I've gotten to where I am because of a few things. 1) It's due to the people I've met over the years. 2) References, references, references. 3) Because of my versatility and amount of what I can handle. 4) My professionalism. I'm always looking for new people to work with but I've begun to reach a point where people are contacting me. With that said I stand behind everything I have wrote and I am a firm believer that the discrimination against males in the fetish femdom industry is pathetic. It's something that needs to change if not for the simple reason of respecting what I do whether I am a male or a female.

3 comments:

  1. I am so happy to here someone saying this. I especially agree with your idea that "One way to solve this is to have a higher standard for male models in kink." I have noticed that there seems to be a lot of discrepancy in the standard of quality between Femdom and Maledome.

    I personally am into Male/LezDome however I do not even enjoy the professional feel, and porn/sex focus, of what you find on the internet. I would haply pay for a good amateur site that focused more on the emotional dynamic. That said from what I have seen the opposite is true of most of the Femdom on the net. The only really unprofessional looking Femdom I have seen has been on Kink.com. Now maybe it is just me but from what I have seen in life women are generally equally if not more willing to have sex then men. So why then would there be such a discrepancy unless men are selling themselves short (no pun intended)

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  2. It is because MEN (generally) are the one's who pay for the content as an end-user. They don't give a fuck what man is in the video.... it's all about the female performer. Without her... the video might as well not exist.
    AS

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  3. men are the ones who are generally paying for the content but the male does matter in a couple of ways especially in Femdom. 1) Professionalism plays a huge role behind the scenes. 2) Being a submissive fetish model requires a lot whether it's a male or woman. To be diverse and able to take one extreme to the next is rare. 3) Not to be vain but looks sell on all levels. There are definitely more "beautiful" men than me in the world but looks do play a role

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