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Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Male Discrimination in the Fetish Industry

In the everyday working world it's believed that women are discriminated against when it comes to pay wages. This is partially true but if you look at outside factors that are not factored in it's really not quite as true as the people are made to believe.
1. They don't factor in jobs that are cash based - tips. These business's are dominated by women. There are far more female waitresses and bartenders than there are males. Then there is of course the stripping and escorting which can both be very lucrative.
2. When the economy sank it was mostly men who got laid off. Largely because there were more men employed and because most men earned higher wages. Now there are more women with jobs than there are men.
3. There are more women in college to date than there are men, which means it's likely that women will continue to grow in the business world.

NOW ON TO KINK


Female models, Dominants, submissives, switches, and even women who are not kinky but are willing to be a part of something kinky will be paid for photos and or video work. I know that the pussy holds the power and that men are the ones that generally pay. The largest  problem I have is with the femdom kinky photography and video industry. Because men will pay a Pro Domme to be a submissive somewhere along the line someone decided we don't have to pay men to be in our videos. There thinking is "Because we are dominant they should be so lucky to serve us". If you really think about it, it is complete bullshit! Try saying that to a female who is going to be submissive on video, it just doesn't work like that.

I've been around long enough to know how the industry works and why it tends to work a certain way. I will admit that I have been on sets with men who don't have much video experience and sometimes much kink experience and it never goes the way as planned. Many men look at video as a free session when doing video is much different than a session. It's not as intimate, it's a stop and go pace, it's generally not as intense and there are people with cameras in the room.

Look around the fetish industry and try and tell me how many semi known male fetish models there are. Off the top of my head I can think of 2, Kade and Perish. Both are VERY different from one another and then if you throw me in there I would be more like Kade but I'm still very different from him. I'm also a full time college student and not living in L.A. All three of us are successful in the industry in our own way. We've all heard the term gay for pay and let me tell you lots of guys do this. It's because male discrimination in the fetish industry is so bad that men are willing to go where they get paid. How pathetic is that!?! I don't mean the men are pathetic, the pathetic part is the semi accepted discrimination on men in straight femdom videos. If a man does get paid in femdom work he is almost ALWAYS paid less than the woman.

On a personal note I do get paid unless I agree to do trade for content work. Which is primarily what I have been doing all this summer as I'm going to be opening up my own clips4sale store come September. With that said to get where I've gotten hasn't been easy. I've been pressing my modeling work a lot more in this past year but I've been involved in the community since I was 18. I was lucky enough to meet some great people pretty quickly and I was smart enough to be educated about BDSM. I've been around the block several times but with that said I still run into obstacles with the discrimination against males. Websites saying they want to work with me but can only pay me "this much" when I know that the woman is getting paid more.

One way to solve this is to have a higher standard for male models in kink.
Let me tell you doing what I do isn't easy. I don't care whether your a dominant, switch, submissive, male, female or TG. Kink work isn't as easy as it looks or sounds. I love what I do and I've made some great friends but there is a problem here that is regularly accepted among too many.

I've gotten to where I am because of a few things. 1) It's due to the people I've met over the years. 2) References, references, references. 3) Because of my versatility and amount of what I can handle. 4) My professionalism. I'm always looking for new people to work with but I've begun to reach a point where people are contacting me. With that said I stand behind everything I have wrote and I am a firm believer that the discrimination against males in the fetish femdom industry is pathetic. It's something that needs to change if not for the simple reason of respecting what I do whether I am a male or a female.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Personal

My apologies for only have 1 posting last week. It was a hectic week for me and not having my own apartment to go home to every night makes things even more complicated.
I've been spending a lot of time with a new friend and haven't been at the place where I'm staying in Chicago much at all lately. It's just been fresh, different, fun, very unexpected and keeping me smiling. (Sorry for the general-ness but that's where that lays at the moment).
My friend Bobcat and his girlfriend came into town Thursday evening from Ohio. Friday I showed them around the city a bit and his girlfriend isn't 21 so I took her where I knew she could drink... China Town. Around 11 I headed back to Logan Square because I was selling my precious subwoofers and amplifier. I've had it since 2004 and let me just say these were my babies. But, I don't have a car and don't plan on having one for a few years so I sold them.

Bobcats girlfriend went to sleep and we went out. He also had a friend that just moved to Chicago from Hawaii with us. We went to some bars in Logan Square but a big storm was rolling in to. We bar hopped around a few places and then it started pouring. We jetted across the street for Mexican food hoping the rain would slow down and well that just didn't happen. Tons of people were standing under awnings waiting for the rain to stop but it didn't look like it would and it was only a 7-8 block walk. So I took off my shirt and we walked home in the rain. It was warm outside and it was fun. We looked like we jumped into a lake. The next day the weather said that was the most rain ever recorded in 24 hours in Chicago, nearly 9 inches with 7 of those inches coming between midnight and 7am - when we were out in it.

Saturday we went to the Wicker Park Festival. Tons of bands, food, & drink in the streets. We were there a few hours and then we met up with my good friend VonLivid and we went back to her place. Had some drinks, good convo and then some kink. Bobcat and his girlfriend had some hot kinky scenes and much later in the night VonLivid decided she was going to abuse me. She put me in some nylon stocking bondage and followed that up with rope bondage. The rope bondage was from head to toe including hair bondage, a rope gag and a rope blindfold. My hands were incased in the stockings and I couldn't do much of anything. Bobcat and his girlfriend couldn't resist and wanted to join in. It was the first time that either of them had seen me play in person and they wanted their shots I took all different kinds of s/m for a couple hours. Here are a few of those marks including a black & purple bruising on my cock & yes that hurt like hell!!!
Then VonLivid was going to let me try and cum with a hitachi as she made my bed on the hardwood floor aside her bed. It took a little while but once she gave me a countdown as a threat of not being allowed to orgasm I finally did. It was very erotic but the bondage I was in made in very difficult to orgasm. It was a lot of fun and then I slept in the same position in all the bondage.

Sunday I went out shopping with Bobcats girlfriend so that she could get some new shoes. Took her to a few places but Akira won out. I love Akira shoes too! I was exhausted from the night before though so it was the start of a long day. I went back to my place in Logan Square to get Bobcat and meet up with 2 of my friends from the suburbs. We then went back out to the Wicker Park Festival. Watched some bands and then made our way to Big Star Lounge for some amazing tacos and whiskey. Afterwards we met up with my X girlfriends cousin. I hadn't seen her in quite some time and we played some trivia at a bar with her. It was great to catch up. Then me and my suburbs friends went to Subterranean where every Sunday night is hip hop showcase night.
It's safe to say we were pretty drunk. I was heading home and I had given my keys to Bobcat cause he went back to my place first as he was tired. My suburb friends got in their car and headed home as I found out Bobcat fell to sleep and I was locked out of my place. It's about 2am and luckily my friends came back, picked me up and drove me further into the city where I could stay with one of my girlfriends. As I got out of the car I dropped my phone in their car and didn't realize until they drove away. Luckily, my friend still opened the door and I had a place to sleep. I've been without my phone since but it's supposed to be returned to me late tonight.

I was going to do Fetishcon this weekend but opted not to as I just have too much on my plate in the coming weeks. I think I'm shooting video with Maya Sinstress tomorrow and then it's Whiskey Wednesday at Twisted Spoke with some of my friends.

It's been a great week and it's crazy to think that next week is already August. i have about 4 weeks left in Chicago and then it's NYC for a concert and back to school in Ohio for my senior year. I do think I may have found a play partner for the future though. We'll see how the rest of the summer works out and I'll have more details to come.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Kink Filled

This weeks update:
Last Monday I had a pro session as a male top with 20 something female. That's definitely a change from the regular. Me and the girl had a mutual friend that committed suicide this past October 30th and he was introducing her to kink a little bit. So, she came to see me for a pro session. I tied her up with Shibari on her but with her legs spread apart. I ball-gagged, blindfolded, and tied her arms behind her back and pulled them upwards. Put clamps with bells on her nipples and clothespins all over her inner thighs. Then I tied the hitachi around her thigh and on her clit and put it on high. She wasn't allowed to cum and I flogged her. Eventually we changed positions and I tied her so she had one leg on the ground and the other leg I frog tied. I tied her left hand back and left her right hand loose. Kept the hitachi on her clit, flogged the clothespins off of her thighs and I let her masturbate. In just a couple of minutes she came 3 times and then I forced her to eat all of her cum off of her fingers and the condom covered hitachi.
It was hot!!! She was really nervous but it was a lot of fun.

Wednesday I shot video with Xena & Lady Maria. We shot outside in a backyard on the southside of Chicago. Only 1 side of the fence was blocked off so that the neighbors couldn't see so we had to makeshift the other 2 sides of the fence to the yard. So we hung blankets and sheets, it worked... hahaha. There were little kids playing in the yard behind us before we started shooting too.

We shot 4 different scenes are it was an exhausting day. I was definitely hard at work. First I was tied to a light pole in the yard and whipped and flogged by both of them. I'm not sure why but I was hurting that day. You have good days and bad days when it comes to taking pain and that day definitely wasn't one of my better days.


Then we shot a very humiliating, disgusting, bizarre scene and the crazy thing is that it was my idea. I saw this video of an asian girl taking some enema torture with eggs, milk and cranberry juice and thought to myself, I want to do that. We had a makeshift funnel but none the less it worked. I had 11 eggs cracked and put up my ass and a entire jug of cranberry juice. It was definitely tough to hold yet it turned me on. I was then left to shoot it out my ass. There was so much stuff coming out of me that fly's were all over my ankles like I was a dead animal. Eventually I then turned around and sat in everything that just came out my ass and then used the egg yolk as lube to masturbate. It was fantastic! Here's two pictures of me just standing and here is the link to the video that inspired me to do it myself.
FYI - You have to copy and paste the link.
http://www.slutload.com/watch/HosykPeuV50/Enema-Punishment-And-Torture.html



3rd clip was a bit of water torture with the hose. Since I was covered in egg yolk, cranberry juice, mud, grass and flies I had to clean off somehow. So they decided to spray me with the hose but torture me a bit as well.

By the time we were shooting the last clip I was exhausted. We moved inside and I was forced to do some anal painting, lol. A few large paint brushes were stuck up my ass and without using my hands I had to paint a picture. Let me tell you, it wasn't easy and it was one hell of a workout on my legs. Overall I think I did a good job. Here is my ass-gough masterpiece.


Last night I went to the Continuum dungeon party and it was fun. Xena whipped me a bit and it was just a good time. Today, I'm off to a BBQ with some of my friends. It's a beautiful 90 degree summer day so we mine as well enjoy it.
Tomorrow I'm going to a "Choose Your Own Gender" party with my good friend Holland and Missy Rhodes. So, of course I'm going to be a hot bitch.
Wednesday Missy Rhodes and I are doing a photo shoot together as bondage models and then were going to shoot some video as well. Thursday my friend Bobcat from Athens, Ohio and his girlfriend are getting into town. They are going to be here all weekend and it's his girlfriends first time in Chicago so that should be fun.
Staying busy.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Kinky People vs. The Kinky Act

My head is running with so many things to talk about lately but as promised to the people I'm staying with here in Chicago this post is about kinky people vs. a kinky act. I briefly talked about this in a previous post titled, "A Touchy Topic: The Fetish Industry" but I'm a go into a bit more detail.

Last week the people I'm staying with had a few friends over and we all had a great big dinner and some drinks together. Now me plus 3 others are what you would call kinky people while the other was a guy who enjoyed a kinky act on occasion, if you can even call it that. The thing is, he completely agreed with us but they were all like, "You have to blog about this!"

Kinky People:
Kink is more than what we do when where all "hot and bothered". It's truly a part of who we are. I'm not saying that we are all kinky every single day of our lives but our mind operates differently. For example, I see a funnel and think of all the nasty things I could do with it. It could work for watersports, breath control, & enemas. I mean have I ever really used a funnel for cooking purposes. Maybe I have but I can't think of a time when I actually did but I can think of many other purposes for a funnel.

Kink is a hell of a lot more than sex to the kinky person. When I actually doing kinky activities with someone else my main concern is not putting my dick inside of them. In fact, in most circumstances that is the absolute last thing on my mind. I don't want to get into lifestyle kink because that's an entirely different topic.

"The Kinky Act"
This was the example used over our dinner conversation. The woman I'm staying with said this, "My husband thinks kinky is a girl stripping and putting her panties on his head and teasing him. Now that may be sexy but that is not kinky." Everyone at the table agreed including her husband. There was a time when he thought he was kinky, but then he quickly found out that he wasn't. Sure he had a few fantasies but doesn't everyone to some extent.

This whole topic actually came about over the Rihanna, S&M song/video.
Rihanna S&M

On one hand we all thought that the concept of BDSM becoming more mainstream was good because it's showing that society is becoming more and more OK with alternative sexual cultures. The video itself did get some whiplash but Rihanna stood behind it in which I applaud her for doing. On the other hand, as BDSM becomes more mainstream there are more and more people in this world who just don't understand it. They aren't educated on the topic nor do many of them want to learn. People who generally find kink find it because deep down inside of them they know that this is a part of who they are.

BDSM is a taboo culture and that's something I enjoy about it. I enjoy the different, the freaky, the fear of the unknown, the danger and all the sexual deviancy. It's not for everyone but it is for me!

Friday, July 8, 2011

Kink keeping me busy

The outdoor video shoot I was going to do this week got rescheduled because it was a cool-cloudy day. So, it looks like where going to try and do it next week. We've got some great ideas for shooting to. Creative, new and bizarre, just the way I like it! I'm also in the works of setting up video shoots with Mistress Provaz with an emphasis on bondage and s/m. Goddess Nicole and I are going to do some humiliation & feminization videos. Missy Rhodes and I also have an original spoof shoot planned. I laugh just thinking about it. Me and her and a common fetish that neither of us have a lot of experience with so were going to do "our version" of it.

I've been talking with some photographers and riggers for a semi dangerous in public shibari suspension photo shoot for us to accomplish this summer.  I'm excited about it and hopefully we can make it happen.

Tonight I have a TG Domme session. I'm using a dungeon space I've never used before but I know the person well so I'm excited to just play in a different space. I also have some good things in store. Some enema torture play, anal plugs, heavy restraining bondage, and more. Afterwords I'm meeting with another client. He is a gay male and so he likes me as a dominant man. I'm meeting him at his house. Choosing what he is going to wear under his clothes, probably a nice size anal plug and then were going out for dinner and drinks. He has been wanting to explore more watersports and public play so I'm going to piss in a glass in the bathroom and have him drink it at the table.

Then it's home for board game night with the people I'm staying with.
Tomorrow I'm going to the Exxxotica Expo. It will be my first time there, it looks like it will be fun. The Continuum Dungeon is going to be there so I'll hang out with some friends for a bit. Also Rubberdoll is performing and the night party has an old school hip hop theme. I'm not sure who all is coming with me yet. Maybe my friend Holland, maybe VonLivid and a vanilla friend or two.
If you see me at the event on Saturday come say hi! It looks like I'll be getting there around 4pm-ish.

Sunday I'm going to the beach with Missy Rhodes. It's supposed to be really hot outside so it should be a perfect day.

Fetishcon...
I'm still not 100% sure if I'm going. I'll know in a few days. If I do go what will end up happening is that I would go out to DC on the 24th and be taking sessions the 24th and 25th. Then on the 26th (Tuesday) I would drive down to Florida with a client. He happens to be a Male dominant and on the way down there I would be his submissive. Once we got to Florida he would pretty much do his thing while I do mine. Which would be lots of modeling gigs for me and some partying. I also might be a demo bottom for a humiliation class. That's in in the works.

I almost forgot. On Tuesday I met up with a female dominant who is looking for male play partner who is also into obedience and domestic servitude. So I met her for an "interview" and that went well. We were actually at the same 4th of July party briefly and didn't even know it. I spent 3 hours cleaning her apartment completely naked. She said she's going to add some "fun" things to the mix when I see her next week. I'm still a bit unsure on everything with her but I thought I'd see her again and see how things go.

 Here's a few pictures, just because I'm nice.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Week of 4th of July

1st of all, let me apologize for the current state of my blog. The site is being redesigned and so it has a funky color scheme and look to it currently. It will have an improved design in about a weeks time.

On to everything else. What a crazy - fun week it was. I was all over the city and even spent a little time in Des Plaines. I was visiting just about everyone and drinking even more. I believe it was Thursday night when I went over to an old friends house who is now going by Mistress Provaz. She has been in the scene for going on 10 years or so. I got over to her house and there was a little bondage session/photo shoot going on. So I enjoyed watching that and then that's when I also met Katherine Reigns and she was a delightful surprise. She's definitely a beauty and she's starting to really get her toes wet in the world of BDSM. Mistress Provaz is teaching her the "ropes" of things

Saturday was my good friends, brothers graduation party from college so I went out to Des Plaines for that. Spent the entire day out there with most of their family. I tell people all the time that I don't want kids, at least I don't think I want kids but everyone is always shocked by that because kids love me. This little boy named Avion followed me around all day, he was fun. At the same time me and the graduation boy Matt drank a lot of whiskey and coke. Around 11pm we went to the city, Wicker Park to party. There were 8 of us and we hit up a few different bars: Crocidile, Big Star, The Tavern, and Estelles. About 4am were heading out and so we go into Flash Taco because were all starving. This place started rocking better than some of the clubs. Loud music and dancing drunk people breaking it down. There was even some break dancing inside of the taco joint. It was hilariously awesome!

Sunday: Fetish model and friend Missy Rhodes had just gotten back into town and told me that the LRA dungeon was having their annual 4th of July BBQ party. Then the kinky people I'm staying with here in Chicago told me the same thing so I thought lets check it out. About 150 people from 7pm to 3am showed up. There was more food than you could imagine and lots of beer and alcohol. It ended up being a fantastic party and a great night. Met some new people and ran into lots of old friends and current friends. Missy and I went together with my friend Andrew. Also to come was Holland, Mistress Provaz, Katherine Reigns, Rigger Mortis aka the creator of Shibaricon, Manny who I also bumped into at Pride, and many others.

Mistress Provaz wanted to whip me and so we put on a little show. She was using a rope single tail and I took a 35-40 minute whipping on my back. She was great with the whip and I enjoyed myself as well. Afterwords Katherine Reigns felt like being a bit of a sadist and wanted to clean up my back with some nice aftercare and rubbing alcohol. I definitely love me a sadist sometimes! Later in the night I also gave Katherine Reigns a foot massage because I'm nice like that.

Yesterday - The 4th of July. Missy Rhodes and I hung out again. Her roommate was with us and we went out to Des Plaines later in the afternoon to my friends house, Raul. He was having a BBQ and all my friends trickled in by 8pm. Good Mexican skirt steak tacos, ribs, and burgers. It wasn't anything too crazy but still fun. I do have a hilarious video though. They bought some fireworks to set off and put them up on top of a recycling bin. A few of us started to notice that it was falling off and then it did and it started shooting fireworks at everything. Including shooting them into the garage where most of us where, at the neighbors house and just about everything else. You can briefly see me at the end and hear me say, "That's why you guys don't like off fireworks!"

video

This week: I am shooting a few Outdoor BDSM videos. Since the weather here as been fabulous there is no better time to partake in some outdoor play. I have a few TG Domme sessions and Missy and I are in the works of a video that we plan on shooting together. It's a spoof on something else, I don't want to give it away but it will definitely be different, erotic and lots of fun. Also to put it out there, Missy and I want to do some fetish modeling together with other riggers and photographers out there. Email me if your interested in working with us. Morgankeni4@gmail.com

I also have some personal D/s that might be going on with me this week. I'm meeting with someone today and I will keep everyone up to date on how that goes.