Kink keeping me busy

The outdoor video shoot I was going to do this week got rescheduled because it was a cool-cloudy day. So, it looks like where going to try and do it next week. We've got some great ideas for shooting to. Creative, new and bizarre, just the way I like it! I'm also in the works of setting up video shoots with Mistress Provaz with an emphasis on bondage and s/m. Goddess Nicole and I are going to do some humiliation & feminization videos. Missy Rhodes and I also have an original spoof shoot planned. I laugh just thinking about it. Me and her and a common fetish that neither of us have a lot of experience with so were going to do "our version" of it.

I've been talking with some photographers and riggers for a semi dangerous in public shibari suspension photo shoot for us to accomplish this summer.  I'm excited about it and hopefully we can make it happen.

Tonight I have a TG Domme session. I'm using a dungeon space I've never used before but I know the person well so I'm excited to just play in a different space. I also have some good things in store. Some enema torture play, anal plugs, heavy restraining bondage, and more. Afterwords I'm meeting with another client. He is a gay male and so he likes me as a dominant man. I'm meeting him at his house. Choosing what he is going to wear under his clothes, probably a nice size anal plug and then were going out for dinner and drinks. He has been wanting to explore more watersports and public play so I'm going to piss in a glass in the bathroom and have him drink it at the table.

Then it's home for board game night with the people I'm staying with.
Tomorrow I'm going to the Exxxotica Expo. It will be my first time there, it looks like it will be fun. The Continuum Dungeon is going to be there so I'll hang out with some friends for a bit. Also Rubberdoll is performing and the night party has an old school hip hop theme. I'm not sure who all is coming with me yet. Maybe my friend Holland, maybe VonLivid and a vanilla friend or two.
If you see me at the event on Saturday come say hi! It looks like I'll be getting there around 4pm-ish.

Sunday I'm going to the beach with Missy Rhodes. It's supposed to be really hot outside so it should be a perfect day.

Fetishcon...
I'm still not 100% sure if I'm going. I'll know in a few days. If I do go what will end up happening is that I would go out to DC on the 24th and be taking sessions the 24th and 25th. Then on the 26th (Tuesday) I would drive down to Florida with a client. He happens to be a Male dominant and on the way down there I would be his submissive. Once we got to Florida he would pretty much do his thing while I do mine. Which would be lots of modeling gigs for me and some partying. I also might be a demo bottom for a humiliation class. That's in in the works.

I almost forgot. On Tuesday I met up with a female dominant who is looking for male play partner who is also into obedience and domestic servitude. So I met her for an "interview" and that went well. We were actually at the same 4th of July party briefly and didn't even know it. I spent 3 hours cleaning her apartment completely naked. She said she's going to add some "fun" things to the mix when I see her next week. I'm still a bit unsure on everything with her but I thought I'd see her again and see how things go.

 Here's a few pictures, just because I'm nice.

A Touchy Topic: The Fetish Industry

It seems like everyone is a fetish model or a pro domme these days. Not that there is anything wrong with being either because technically I am both. But it is here in the fetish community where anyone can proclaim to be a "fetish model" or a "pro domme". In a way that is what keeps the industry fresh, allowing new faces to emerge on the scene. On the other hand, it is was what over saturates the industry and the concept that anyone can do it is a dangerous theory.
If every male out there believed he can play professional football then no one would watch the sport. People wouldn't idolize players or respect their talents. It is the same here and for every other industry. Chicago has over 100 - born female Pro Dommes. There's only 10-15 that I would pay for a session and even that is pushing it. I feel bad for both the talented Dommes and the clients because the talented Dommes get put into the class of "just another domme" and they loose out on money. The clients have a difficult time deciding who they should session with and in many cases get  a really poor session.

As for the "models", just go on Fetlife and I'm sure if you clicked on 100 random profiles at least 40-50% of them would claim to be some sort of fetish model. Just because someone else took a kinky picture of you doesn't mean your a fetish model. Just because you're involved in the kink community doesn't make you a fetish model.

So where do I land in all of this?

Well let me just say, there is nothing wrong with being an aspiring fetish model. It's just all about how you go about becoming one. Proclaiming that your a "fetish model" before you've ever established yourself in any manner is preposterous. I've been involved in the community since I was 18 and I'm turning 25 on September 6th. I've been at this for awhile and just in the past year did I really start pushing myself as my own product.

The last and most important key to me is being a fetish model or pro domme is actually being interested in the BDSM - Fetish world. Most people who make it on some level in this industry are actually kinky. Kinky isn't wanting to tie a woman to a bed and fuck her, that's rough sex. I see it all the time, people think they are kinky until they are around kinky people and they realize just how vanilla they are. There is nothing wrong with being vanilla but a pro domme should be kinky. It's their job to make the client feel at ease and there are just too many pro dommes that are only in it for the money that they think they can make.
Many models also aren't kinky and that is a shame to me as well. If your not kinky and want to model - don't do fetish modeling. America is the best country in the world at selling a lie so I guess it's naive of me to think that the fetish industry should be any different.

Personally, it's been a process for me but the past year has been a good one for me and I expect to continue to grow and push boundaries. I will be at FETISHCON in Tampa Bay July 28-31. I've already schedule lots of gigs with several different people. I also hope to work some old friends that I've never gotten to work with yet like Nyssa Nevers. I've also been asked to model for a tattoo book so I'm excited about that as well.